Six Ways to Make People Like
you. If you want people to like you.........
Rule 1: Become
genuinely interested in other people.
1)
"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
2)
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other
people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in
you."
3)
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy
answering."
Reflection: To
have interest in someone you must respect their believes and values. Always respecting
their values will make you seem like a great person and this will open the
opportunity for them to come close to you. Allowing people to see what a great
person you are will show your personality top many people. Always let people
see the good side of you not the bad. Never seem uninterested in someone’s
life.
Rule 2: Smile
1) "Actions
speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy.
I am glad to see you."
2)
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3)
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is
the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: Always
having a bright smile on your face will demonstrate to people that you are very
friendly. A smile can bring lots of warmth to people and affect them in a way
that is very happy. Simple actions that are simple like smiling and saying thank
you to people show how respectful you are and will bring a good attitude
towards yourself. Whenever someone feels down a simple smile can make them feel
better. People say a smile can be contagious, smiling simply brings people
together. Always smile no matter what the circumstance is because a smile can
make a huge difference.
Rule 3: Remember names
1) “A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.”
2) “If you don’t remember names, you are headed for
trouble.”
Reflection: It is very important to always remember people’s names because
this shows that you are informed and intrigued in the person. When you remembers
ones name it shows people that you care for them and what they have to say. It
shows a sign of respect and shows people that you truly care for them. Remembering
names is the polite thing to do to people; it is rude for people not to know
you by your name and even ruder to call them something else.
Examples:
a) Trust yourself
b) Seeing faces
c) Using sound tricks
d) Hear the sounds repeat
e) Seeing spelling visually
f) Writing it down
g) Keeping records
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage other to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire
to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that
the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and
his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
Reflection: when you become more interested in what people are saying
rather than just paying attention to yourself then that will show the person
you are talking with that you care about them. Being a good listener will show
the person you are a caring person. They can learn a lot form your personality,
such as things you like or your opinion on certain topics. Always listening
will allow you to open yourself up to people which can help you see the
perspectives of many people. As well as seeing if you have any common interest
with these people.
5 Tips for Active Listening
1. Stay focused- keep eye contact, don't judge,
be patient
2. Really listen- don't worry about what you
should say next.
3. Allow for periods of silence- wait until the
other person speaks again
4. Repeat what they have to said or repeat
certain phrases they have said back to them reassure you really care
5. Understand the emotions behind the words- can
show you truly care and your connection.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the others man’s interest
"The royal road
to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: Being respectful and acting with
lots of attention to someone allows them to feel comfortable and open up to
you. Talking with someone about what interests the like opens up many
conversations to talk about. This allows you to see their side to many things
and how they feel. Showing respect to their interest can also show what kind of
person you are and if they are willing to be friends with you. Courtesy towards
someone’s interest demonstrates your kindness and your interest.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to
be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John
Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: Making other feel
appreciated helps create a closer bound to the person. They become to know your
personality better and it shows them you are very caring. People who care for
others will be known as good people with good hearts and they will always now
to count on you. Making others feel cared for makes you seem very sincere and
responsible. Whenever you seem to face a problem there will always be those
people who you looked out for to be there in your time of need. Always be a
helping hand this will help you in the long run.
Reflection: These are the six overall traits you must follow in order to make
people like you. Never forget that kindness comes from within and people will
be nice to you only if you’re nice to them. It might be hard at first to open
up to someone but with time and practice people will get to know you better.
